June 25, 2007

Dealing with Lazy People

It's wrong, it will wear us down, but we've all done it. How many times have you taken care of a loved one when they were fully capable of taking care of themselves?

Dear readers, there are a lot of lazy people out there who want to be "taken care" of by any soft touch they can find. As the return of our Lord draws near, we will notice more con-artists and lazy, dependent people who come to rely on the generosities of family and friends to support them.

I call them lazy because that is what they are. More people than ever before prefer to lay around, shirk the responsibilities a job entails, while expecting others to take care of their daily needs. Who do these lazies expect help from? The government, family members and friends.

The bible outlines in specific detail what should happen to a man who is "able" to work but will not.



2 Thessalonians 3:10-13


10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.


11 For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies.

12 Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.

Now notice I said those who are ABLE to work have no excuse not to. The disabled, elderly, and children are exempt altogether.


You see, I am writing on the subject of lazy, dependent people because I've noticed an increase in able-bodied young men who prefer to lay around the house all day, waiting for mommy and daddy to bring home the bacon and cook it up for them!

Providing for one's family

Those who shirk the responsibilty of taking care of their families:

1 Timothy 5:8

But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

The root of laziness is selfishness. These people don't want to sacrifice the least bit of "self". However, they are more than ready to sacrifice your hard earned money and efforts in order to satisfy their own needs. Each of us are responsible to keep ourselves busy, working and providing for our families. If we don't do this, it says a lot about our character.



How many times has a parent pulled their hair out due to a lazy adult child who mooches off of them?

How many times has a spouse been driven to utter exhaustion due to holding down 2 jobs because their lazy spouse refuses to contribute to the family he is responsible for?

Friends, these things should not be allowed to continue. What can you do and just how do you stop it? Stop enabling the lazies.

Put your foot down and hold them accountable for a change. Tell them that if they want:


  • food

  • shelter

  • clothing

then get off their couch and get a job!

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I do agree. If you have a spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend who seems to do nothing but sit on the couch, watch TV, read books, play on the internet, etc., then you must do something about it or the resentment will grow. You will find yourself angry at them when they really haven't done anything. But alas...there it is: "tthey really haven't done anything. We are not judged simply by how we look, walk, talk, love, etc., but by what we do or do not do. You must say something to these people. If they love you, I mean really love you, then your displeasure with them and you being upset in general will often motivate them to work harder. Also, you may need to withhold some things until they get the picture. Cancel your membership to Blockbuster - Stop buying food and giving them money for food (you can eat out). I assure you, they will do something about it long before they starve. If you are enabling them, then you are not doing what is best for the mutual relationship.

Anonymous said...

But what if mommy and daddy nurtured his lazyness because he has a learning disability and now as an adult he thinks he is entitled just because. The learning disability is minor others the same as him go to college and make something of themselves. He used to work and in the last 5 years he has just decided that the family owes him and must support him. How do you change that?

mike shaw said...

yepper,,,,