I have known people who are consumed with what others think about them.
It saddens us when others view us in a negative light when we have done them no wrong. But if others hold a negative and distorted view of us unjustly, we should not waste time being concerned about their opinions. It really is that simple because people tend to believe what they want to, no matter how we may try to change their opinions of us.
We spend too much time concerned about what others think of us and too little time concerned about what our creator thinks of us.
Settling Disputes and Stubborn Pride
If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
I've noticed a growing disinterest in "going to the source" and "getting to the root" of disputes and disagreements. People are increasingly avoiding matters that should be brought to the forefront and resolved. Instead they choose to let their anger build until they are unreachable due to pent up resentment. Is there a name for this attribute? Yes, it is stubborn pride and today we see it at every turn.
Avoiding an issue with another is no way to solve it. If another's actions has harmed us, we should go to them with it and not broadcast it to those who have no part in the matter.
A Humble Spirit
The attribute which is the opposite of stubborn pride is humbleness.
Dear friends, it is humbleness - allowing ourselves to be brought down a notch or two on the pride scale and NOT thinking too highly of ourselves (keeping ourselves in subjection to God) that helps us to resolve conflict and turmoil with another. If we have humbleness within us, God is well pleased.
If you have a person in your life that you cannot reason with, examine yourself and determine if you are possessing a humble spirit or stubborn pride. If humbleness isn't there it is no wonder why you cannot get anywhere with people who are hard to deal with.
If you have tried to reason with a person and discuss what their problem is with you but have been met with only cold disregard, you must not be engrossed with them or their ill treatment of you. You must not let their distorted opinions and actions shake you. Let them go and release them. If they attack you verbally to others don't worry about this and never spend time defending yourself. If God is pleased with us, we honestly DO love others, and have not harmed anyone, God is well pleased.
Persecuted by others when you have done no wrong?
If you have done nothing wrong, yet others treat you badly, they are persecuting you because you are God's child. We are told about this in the bible. This is what the pharisees did to Jesus. He did good but nonetheless, they still persecuted him.
Notice what Jesus said about persecution:
Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.
What are we to do about unjust persecution?
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despite fully use you, and persecute you;
People living in a state of anger
Many today live in a constant state of anger. They don't like it if others have peace and joy in their lives because they themselves don't have peace and joy.
Don't be a people pleaser. There will always be someone you cannot please no matter what you do.
Some of these people who are hard to please must have their way at every turn or you will suffer, they will try to see to it. But notice, I said they would try. You do not have to permit them to succeed.
People who are vindictive and mean spirited don't have to be given victory over you. You control how they and their actions effect you.
Let their bad treatment of you roll off your back and out of your mind. Do not dwell on them because who has your back? God does.